I had a friend post today (in so many words) that women are bad about taking things out on the next guy. The guy from before just ran all over them, left them heartbroken and unable to love again. And the next guy that comes along? Bless his heart, he has hell to pay from the heartbreak.
I have so been there, lots of times. My heart broken in so many pieces and let down by a relationship. Not always from a man. Sometimes from a friend, a family member or a co-worker. It makes it hard. But I have grown to forgive those that have hurt me and move on. I truly think if you don't love or put trust in yourself how can you truly love or trust another? Nothing hurts worse than being let down or unsupported by your friends, family, or lover.
I think alot of let downs are miscommunication too. Someone doesn't seem as excited as you think they should be over an accomplishment or an idea. Someone tells a joke that you take literally. Someone tells something that is not true to another. Sometimes people are hurt and just say something hurtful to make you feel just as bad as they do.
Your continuing the cycle if you continue to punish the people in your life for the wrong that has been done to you. STOP the cycle! That sounded like a line from a commercial I know. Stop punishing everyone else for your unhappiness, stop thinking everyone is out to get you, stop being so dog gone mean. Your doing nothing but making more people dislike you. Then there are some people that are forgiving you that you are continuing to hurt over and over again. Think about it, your turning into that person that hurt you in the first place!
Let it all go and learn to forgive yourself. Learn to love yourself again. Forgive others. Yes, your feelings will get hurt again. Yes, you will have bad days. Remember this though, even if you forgive them that doesn't mean you have to accept them fully back into your life. You forgive and you move on. Hope that someone will forgive you if you have done them wrong. We are just trying to survive. Some of us were taught better survival skills than others. It may be time to pull up your big girl britches and start forgiving...Until then
Keep Rockin
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